EP.15 | Covert Narcissism

Covert narcissism hides behind shyness, false humility, and comparison.

If you’re a high-performer with a big heart, you’ve likely been targeted. In this hard-edged breakdown, Bizzie Gold separates envy vs jealousy, exposes projection, deflection, splitting, and walks through triangulation, gaslighting, and the idealization-to-devaluation cycle. You’ll get the Top 10 ways to identify a covert narcissist, why they’re drawn to empathetic, overcommitted leaders, and how to confront the pattern without getting trapped in the victim narrative.

What we cover:

 • Covert narcissist traits and tactics

 • Why ownership is nearly impossible for a covert narc

 • Why highly empathetic ( and distracted) leaders are a prime target

 • Envy as the core driver

 • How to cut off triangulation and bring truth to light

 • Structured, logic-based rewiring vs talk-therapy loops

If this episode hits uncomfortably close to home, there’s no shame in choosing change. Brain Pattern Mapping and Break Method show you the code your brain is running and how to rewrite it with structure.

SHOW NOTES

01:54 Why ownership is hard for them
03:33 Fawn, flight, freeze vs fight
04:44 Abandon-control covert vs true covert
05:39 Right-side spectrum: projection & image control
06:54 Mental illness as distorted reality
09:04 The Tough Truth
11:16 Success attracts covert narcissists
11:59 Envy vs jealousy explained
14:18 Chronic envy, passive-aggressive playbook
15:55 Projection, deflection, splitting
17:02 Gaslighting & sabotage
18:12 Triangulation & rumor mills
19:23 Paranoia, schadenfreude, fantasy
21:20 Core deficit: lack of empathy
21:53 Why they target high performers
22:29 Forgiveness & ignored red flags
24:41 Top 10 ways to spot covert narcissist
26:51 Why rewiring requires structure
28:44 Growing up with envy & BPD dynamics
35:35 Self-trust, resilience, celebrating others
37:35 Fix scarcity to end envy
39:41 Radical ownership & nuance
41:00 Final takeaways & next week’s teaser