EP 14 | Communication Without The Fight
Most people think communication is about words. That’s a lie.
Your words rank dead last on the inverse hierarchy of information processing—behind assumptions, past behavior, body language, tone, subtext, and even distorted “intuition.” That’s why you keep walking into fights you never wanted. In this episode, Bizzie Gold dismantles the mainstream communication playbook and gives you the five facets of clean communication—a football-style framework that works in relationships, parenting, and high-stakes business. If you’re tired of being misheard, gaslit by assumptions, or stuck in repetitive arguments, this episode hands you the blueprint to cut through the noise.
What you’ll learn:
Why assumptions outrank words every time
How to stop communication from getting distorted
The pre-conversation script that cuts conflict in half
Five facets of Communication
When to walk away, when to set the boundary, and when to expedite the truth
If you’re ready to stop being misheard, misquoted, and manipulated, this is your manual. It’s not about talking more—it’s about rewiring the way you aim, throw, and land every message.
Show Notes
00:00 Communication is kryptonite
01:18 Why words rank dead last
02:12 The inverse hierarchy explained
07:40 Intuition vs fear in disguise
10:58 Dirty sieve & jump-to-conclusions memes
13:42 The football model: five facets
16:05 Facet 1: Goal with productive intent
19:28 Facets 2–3: Assumptions + Motive
24:45 Facets 4–5: Expectations + Style
29:10 Long game, radical ownership, forget “fair”
36:22 Stop being surprised by the predictable
43:30 Close: expedite the truth + BPM
